Hiya Gorgeous!
Confession: Sometimes my close friends poke fun at me because I keep my “gone writing” email autoresponder on for weeks (or months!) at a time.
Hey, when you need to lock in some of that precious deep focus time… well, a gal’s gotta do what a gal’s gotta do!
One project that took my full focus was the talk I did at UCLA for Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions (you can watch it below).
I was really excited when I got the offer. Without a doubt it was a whole body “yes!” But I was also aware of the kind of mental and physical prep it would take to do a great job. If you’re not familiar with Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions, they’re sorta like spiritual TED Talks filled with high caliber thought leaders. No chumps allowed—all A game—all the time.
Naturally, I wanted to crush it.
And the best way I crush it is to practice my ass off. So I called up my speaking coach and we began sculpting my talk months in advance. We started the process by working with index cards. Each card had a short word or a phrase that triggered a story or led to a teaching.
We went big, tossing out every fun, practical and poignant idea.
Note: It’s common to start this process with a hundred or so cards that eventually get reduced to 5-10 must-haves.
We talked about whether I should do something new and fresh, or go with tried-and-true stories and wisdom that I know work. While both options have their merits and challenges, when you’re given a chance to make an impact on a powerful global stage, I think it’s best to do what you know.
Do what makes you feel confident. Do what works. That’s my advice and that’s what I did.
But here’s the rub: While I’ve given hundreds of lectures over the years, I’d never done a super short TED talk. And guess what? It’s much harder than you think! No note cards, no chair (mama likes to sit), no slides, nada.
I’m used to 60-90 minutes, which feels like a luxurious meal with the audience. 18-20 minutes? That’s like a spiritual drive-thru. You have to nourish, inspire and distill your message down to snackable nuggets. Think of it like wisdom from concentrate.
Whittling down my message to 1/6th of its usual size wasn’t only challenging, it was a mental stretch too.
I’m very visually creative. I see my talks in my head. I picture the bones, muscle and fascia. I thrive in the artistic sinew and so when a section of my creative anatomy gets cut out, it’s almost like I feel unsettled and lost. Translation: I forget where I am.
Pssst… Fearing losing your place and ending up like a deer in the headlights will keep a gal up at night. The solution: more practice. Months of practice. It’s not an exaggeration to say that I put at least 100 hours of work into those 18-20 minutes. Now that may seem like A LOT to most, but that’s the kind of prep I need to rock it when the stakes are high.
So I’m doing the work. Rehearsing in the woods, in the car, in the shower, in my office, Skyping with my coach and it’s all coming together. The haircut is booked. The highlights are scheduled. The dress options are picked out (note: bring two in case of a malfunction or drool). Even the underwear gets an upgrade. Can this bra hold a mic pack under the dress? Better get a stronger one. Do these heels wobble or are they sturdy enough to hold me up while I hold the space in the room? Every detail gets planned—my message, my nails, my makeup. You name it.
Suffice to say, it all came together. Until it fell apart.
Brian and I had rented a house in Venice a few days before the event. We arrived on a Tuesday and the gig wasn’t until Saturday. Plenty of time to adjust to the new time zone and land the plane on my speech prep. Thankfully, one of my best friends, Marie Forleo, was also giving a talk, so the two of us rehearsed together. Marie even rented a theater so we could do a run-through on a real stage.
During said run-throughs, I’m kicking ass and growing more confident by the day. My coach and I do another check-in over Skype, tweak a few more points, cut another chunk for time’s sake. And voila, I’ve got it down to close to 18ish minutes, and I’m on fire. But that’s when the insomnia kicks in. A few nights before the talk, I stop sleeping.
Getting only 3-4 hours per night doesn’t work for me. I begin to get concerned because when I’m tired, I don’t remember anything. Cut to the night before the gig—2 hours of sleep. That’s it. Was I scared? Yes. Did my confidence shrink? Yes. Did I want to chew my own arm off and tell them that unfortunately I couldn’t make it? Yes. Did I go for it anyway? YES!
Be your own champion.
Putting your ass on the line takes courage, especially when the stakes are high and it’s not easy or going your way. But the people who are the most successful are the ones who are willing to try and even fail.
It’s natural to doubt yourself. It’s natural to want to run. But it’s phenomenal to stick with it and give it your all anyway.
So there I am, in my dressing room, listening to Oprah introduce the speaker before me, and I know it’s now or never. So I lean in close to the mirror, look myself in the eyes and say, “You are pure magic. Now go out there and share that magic. You’ll be fine. This is your time.”
Before heading backstage, I sneak past security and go outside. Nature grounds me like no other.
Deep breath, take in the sky, the light, the trees. Kick off my shoes for a minute and put my feet in the grass. I see a little squirrel eating a nut, which makes me smile because I love animals. I lean toward him and say, “Hey dude, wanna be me instead?” He responds, “No f’ing way, lady. I’m eating this nut. You’re the nut that said yes to public speaking. Not me!” OK then!
And now it’s my turn.
Oprah announces me, I hold my hand over my heart, whisper “you got this,” and walk out on stage. Next thing I know, I’m on fire—having fun and deeply enjoying connecting with the wonderful audience. After I finish (and get a standing ovation!), I silently apologize to myself for ever doubting my potential—lack of sleep and all.
I bet there have been moments in your life when you’ve wanted to run, doubted yourself and even felt lost. In those moments we have a choice: we can choose fear, like I say in my talk, or we can choose love.
On the SuperSoul stage, I challenged everybody to love and care for themselves unconditionally, especially when we’re facing our fears. Whether you’re prepping for a presentation, a doctor’s visit, or a job interview, you’ve got this. You always have and you always will.
Your turn: I hope you enjoy my talk (watch it above!). It’s the culmination of many years of personal work, soul searching and empowerment. If you get an ah-ha, share it! I’d love to know.
With so much love,
Loved getting to know you and your journey. You are inspiring. This talk moved me to no end. Thank you.
Hi Kris, I just learned about you on the Oprah podcast and I never write on message boards ever but your speech absolutely wow’d, inspired, excited, entertained and gave me a perspective that I didn’t realize I needed today, so I needed to thank you for that! On a side note, have you thought of getting back into acting or doing voices? You are gorgeous and your voice is amazing – I love how you go into a 50’s actress “dame” voice (I don’t know how else to describe it) every once in a while!
I really enjoyed your SuperSoul Video. I have all your books and your set of Crazy Sexy Lovenotes. You are such an inspiration to me and many others. In your book Crazy Sexy Cancer Survivor you made a statement that said “In my mind, you are a survivor the day you are diagnosed” those words alone gave me the strength and power to become a fighter. Thank you for helping so many through what can be a difficult time. You are my inspiration.
I have Fibromyalgia, and I’m trying to learn new ways to heal my body instead of meds.
I read this back when you published it. And found it today and read it again. It is truly what I needed to hear. And It spoke to my heart and made me laugh and cry. I love you Kriss…… you are such a lovely soul and I appreciate so much you are on this planet at this time with me.
Thank you for inspiring me and all of us.
Really fabulous – so inspired by you!! Listening to this after the Healing Cancer program this past week. Great information for anyone who wants to adopt a healthier lifestyle. My husband had prostate cancer and has been cancer free for almost 4 years now. I remember it being difficult to find helpful info – as well as very overwhelming. Thanks for all that you are doing – and you are right – you’ve got this!!
I got two of your books over a year ago and am now ready to begin the journey. Although it’s
not cancer, I want to not let my illness rule my life. Thank you for sharing your story. Keep inspiring!!
OMG, this was so wonderful. Made me cry and really hit home. Accepting myself is a goal and a challenge. Love you so much!
Dang baby girl, you are one of the toughest, most kick-ass people I know. You make ME want to be the best I can be (and that’s a tough one). After I read one of your blogs or watch one of your vlogs, I always feel renewed and grateful. Grateful for the wisdom to really understand the message being shared, and grateful for the soul who is spreading that positivity to anyone who really needs to hear that message. You’re like a crazy, sexy warrior with combat boots on.. and that’s very cool.
Thank you for your kind words, Carolyn! I’m so grateful that we can lift each other up. xo, kc
Kris! You are absolutely amazing! I seen you speaking so many times but never get bored of you and your world changing energy. You inspire me to keep going and accept myself the way I am now…
Sending load of positive vibes and energy!
Arleta
I love your passion! You are truly an inspiration and your story motivation for anyone.
I’m very grateful to have arrived on your list!! Your fun and vivacious and smart! What an amazing messenger for using your ‘opportunities’. Like…wow! Such an illuminated gift for me at this moment, as I struggle to break through my fears, embrace my gifts and live! Thank you thank you thank you!!!❤️
Amazing talk, your practice was well worth it. It flowed beautifully just as it always does when you speak. “Honouring myself” is what I am learning to do this year 2017. and “Giving myself permission” And you know what, it feels good. Scary but good. Somedays I fall off the wagon and go back to old habits of judgement but then a little voice gives me a nudge and I think, No, that’s not honouring myself. Go back to that path again and I’m there. Big love & hugs and Thank you Kris xxx
Wow! That is one of the most inspiring speeches I have seen for a long time, (& I watch a lot of speeches), but more than that, it really resonated not only with me, but with everyone in the audience – just look at their faces! Truly Transformational – I know I will be thinking about this for a long time to come, thank you! ? X
wow, i just saw this for the first time today,
you are so inspiring and watching your video made me feel like a super woman!
i feel like i can do anything!
i feel like i can conquer all who stand in my way!
i laughed, i cried, i listened and i learned
thank you
You are ravishing. Thank you. Bless you.
You rocked it Kris!!!
Thank you for sharing your story, your journey, your discoveries, your wisdom, and your passion!
You are a crazy sexy rockstar!!!
I am getting out the Windex! When going thru 5 mths of chemo, ice cream was my downfall. I didn’t realize how bad it was for me then and how hard it would be to give it up now almost a year later. I was diagnosed with stage3 breast cancer 6 mths after losing my husband (heart attack). We were getting ready to retire. I have had chemo, radiation, a double mastectomy and 2 more surgeries leaving my chest deformed and me questioning myself, my decisions, my plans for the future. You have lifted my spirit! You have renewed my hope.! I will take better care of myself, I will continue to fight this cancer battle and I will share your message! Thank you?
Bless you, that’s a lot to go through, and I’m very sorry about your Husband, hugs. grief is often followed by illness. Keep expressing yourself, find joy wherever possible, and know that yes, you CAN do this! ? xx
Kris-thank you for sharing your heart and soul-filled work. Congrats on your talk. What a clever and captivating way to deliver such an inspiring and important message. Yes to loving yourself well!! All the best.
WOW Kris, every time I hear you talk or read your blog, you blow me away! You’re real and gorgeous and inspiring! Thank you for sharing all you’ve learned, for sharing WHO YOU ARE, with the world! Since discovering you and Anthony William, I’ve become a gluten-free vegan. Well, mostly…I still can’t drink black coffee or resist the odd cheat meal…or my 3-4 cigarettes a day (down from 20 a day), but the meditation practice I’ve started now helps for that and many other things. But I’m learning how to fall in love with life, MY LIFE, for the first time in 40 years! Wow, there’s real magic in that! So thank you for your contribution to my newfound love for myself and for ME that is now emerging! Continue to shine, sparkle and spread your love and magic…it’s BEAUTIFUL and POWERFUL! Sending you love!
Kris, you are such an inspiration and you speak so clearly and powerfully. I love listening to you and reading your books. Your adorable, precious and a light that shines like a sun. Thank you for reminding us that we all shine in our own way and have the option and choice for being a force of light in the world.
Kris, what you said and how you felt resonated with me so deeply. I am losing hope many times and as you said, I have been almost paralyzed by these horrible “movies” always insisting on their playdates in my head.
You egged me to continue treasuring my life and all that it has to offer. I also felt envious of people, how healthy and painless they seemed. You acknowledging those feelings made me feel that it is normal and just being human to do so.
I now feel that it is okay to accept that one might not be cured but one can still be healthy.
Thank you. And here’s to our best health!
17:59 NAILED IT! You are so blessed to have a mission and purpose in your journey called life, many without a “diagnosis” have no such thing. The talk, the message, the information. Lovely and balanced, inspiring and empowering. Now, get some sleep…
I shared my loving support in the last comment for who you are and your evolving awareness of Love and the Inner life journey that is so healing.
Did you receive my last somewhat lengthy comment?
I was deeply touched by your creative writing skills and especially your humor! Yes, you truly are an inspiration to all people whether they have Cancer, other serious illnesses, or are fortunate (which many people are not aware of) to be living free from a serious life threatening or chronically painful disease.
I am a bit curious how you located my name and email address. But, however that occurred ( I believe in the quotation,
“If it is meant to be”). I also deeply believe through my 82 years of living, as a retired and soulful non traditional psychologist, that it is the Inner Journey from our Heart that is our Awakening source. Wishing you continued health, happiness and laughter. xoxo
Tears… sweet warm tears running down my cheeks. Big crazy unconditionel loving heart. Thank you Kris for sharing who You are and reminding us who We all are in our essence. Even though I heard it so many times listening to Eckhart Tolle, Kim and so many other so called spiritual teachers…Your unique way of telling and writing touched me deeply. Love and Gratitude, Mai
I was at the very first Super Soul Sessions in L.A., and it was one of the best experiences of my life! I am so glad you shared your video from this continuing series, it was beautiful and very inspirational. Sending you healing vibes and positive thoughts for your continued success in both your life and healing. <3 & peace. J~
Thank you so much for this post! I am a very nervous public speaker. To a point where one would say its pathological. It has really affected my personal life and career – stopping me from going for job interviews (even after I’ve been shortlisted and clearly can do the job!) , put myself up for conferences (I am in academia where you are expected to present your work) and speaking up in meetings with large groups of people. I watched your talk on SoulSession months ago and thought. “Wow. She is just amazing. So confident. I want to be speaker just like her.” I had no idea that so much went into it and that you had your own insecurities to overcome. This really gives me hope. Thank you thank you.
I just watched this and wanted to thank you for inspiring me. I have been having health challenges for so many years now I feel broken. It’s not cancer, so that’s lucky, but I have severe asthma, that turns into bronchitis, the prednisone that I’ve had to take has left my adrenals wiped out. I have so far to go, I know exactly what to do but I just feel broken, like I somehow am incapable of being healthy. Every time I start down the healthy path, something happens, something to set it off again and down the wrong path I go. I’m tired. But, your speech has inspired me to pick myself up again and realize I’m not broken, I need to love myself more to turn this around. Thank you.
I loved this so much. You are so inspiring, Kris. Keep sharing your beautiful journey — it’s changing my life.
Kris…what can I say that hasn’t already been said? Thanks for being so open and kind to share with the world! Definitely resonated with this talk. And also love love love you meditation guide…especially the pep talk, I play it now as routine even when I don’t need one 🙂 YOU simply ROCK! xo
OMG! This was so great. Your talk was AMAZING. You look so natural and comfortable up there, and your words and story are beautiful. Thank you for sharing your process for prepping up to the nervousness at the very end. I loved reading about how you grounded yourself outside just before. You are such an inspiration!
I always though speakers were always ready and it came so natural. Now I notice that to speak and talk to the audience like you did took a lot of preparation and I admire you! you did wonderful!!! I love your conclusion: NO MATHER WHAT you have to trust yourself and SAY: I GOT THIS!!!!
Hey Kris!! I loved your talk. Here’s the thing: I knew I would BEFORE I watched. Why? Cuz I feel like I know you. You have this magical way of reaching your hand out when you write. You offer it, and all of the sudden we are two friends curled up on the porch, iced tea in hand (or maybe green juice you made for us)–taking about the stuff that really matters. Sharing life and earth school. You had me at HIYA SWEETHEART!!–many months ago. To me, you are the walking talking words of Marianne Williamson…”You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.”
You do that. You give us permission. And I’m so glad to be sitting on the porch with you.❤️❤️❤️
You really crushed it, Kris!!! Your talk was executed so eloquently and I really appreciated that you shared your personal behind-the-scenes prep as I have had those kinds of experiences and sleepless nights before big events too. I could totally relate. Your message was so powerful and I hope to listen to it again and again for inspiration. You ARE Pure Magic. Much love to you.
Thank you for sharing Kris! So glad you got on that stage, your talk rocked!! Loved it.
I had a big aha. Can I share something I’m really embarrassed about? I was sort of a little ashamed of my son. My little beautiful boy, just 3 months old. His smile lights up the room. But he was born with a few minor imperfections. And I mean minor: a lazy eye and a big red birth mark on his underarm. This should not be a big deal, he is otherwise perfectly healthy! But for some reason, I felt ashamed thinking he was not ‘perfect’. And then I’d feel bad about feeling that way! But it kept bugging me. Until your talk. You talked about unconditional love. About accepting and loving yourself right here in this moment. He doesn’t need fixing, he needs loving! It made me tear up. Of course he is already enough. Thank you for reminding me. I’ll cuddle him even more and apologize for ever thinking he was not already perfect.
I know I don’t actually know you but I LOVE YOU. I can feel your energy right through the video and I am inspired. Thank you for sharing yourself… challenges and all… with the world.
This is great Kris! Wow! Well done, well said:)
Thank you for your inspiring message Kris. I have been on a journey to wholeness and self love and think of your question often, “How will I live?” I look forward to your uplifting emails. Thank you for sharing all you have been learning on your journey.
I have a computer class to go to tonight. I’m doubting myself whether I’ll be able to keep up with the rest of the class. Trying to talk myself out of going. Then I read what you wrote about doubting yourself and wanting to run( which is exactly what I wanted to do) but you said it’s phenomenal to stick with it anyway. So I’m going to go and make the best of it. I just may learn a few things. Thank you for your inspiration and giving me the courage to face my fears.
Oh Kris, that was so beautiful!!! You are a true inspiration! Sharing your experience and what you learned about living in love and not fear is such a powerful message. I am grateful you found your mission in life after cancer and decided to turn it around and share your light when I so need it. God has truly blessed you. xoxo
What a fun, inspiring, energizing, grab life by the boot straps speech! I am sharing with many friends facing obstacles. Thank you and Much Love. <3
I was fortunate to be there and see you live. Your hard work paid off. You nailed it! And you looked beautiful as always. Thank you for these words. I need them today as tomorrow I have a meeting about a potential job. First one since going through cancer treatment. Very nervious about showing up not looking like myself( my old self) but will be my own champion and give it my best!
you KILLED IT!!!! I especially loved the definition of crazy sexy life….I got the feeling of it before but now I REALLY get how you want for us to live. So glad that you know now that the cancer will never define you it will only outline how magnificent you are. You are a true inspiration!
Kris,
OMG! AMAZING TALK!!!
I´m so grateful for you being in the world. With your friend Marie, you have inspired me to take fear by the hand and follow love´s lead.
And with such a crazy sexy driver, that love is, life is only getting better.
Cheers to your parents for making you.
But so many thanks to you for becoming you! 🙂
I LOVED it! Thank you so much for sharing. What an inspirational talk.
Thank you for being so honest and so vulnerable.
This blew me away Kris. Tears and all, I was on the edge of my seat. What an inspiration for all women.
I choose love over fear. Thank you.
Thank you so much Kris! I am just about to deliver a presentation and all the self-doubt in my mind is running amuck! Thanks for the reminder that I am magic and I rock at what I do! You are an amazing teacher and a wonderful inspiration. Thank you for all that you do!
The talk was so well-delivered. I could tell there were nerves, but the message came through beautifully all the same. In reading about your backstage “process” I have to admit my heart was in my mouth when I read that you went outside. I’d be thinking “Oh, god, you do not have time for this… and now what if there’s grass stuck to me that sticks out of my shoes” and other such anxiety. Hot mess. But you didn’t freak. (You didn’t sleep either, but you didn’t freak.) And for that (and a whole lot of other reasons) you are one of my heroes. Superbly done, Unicorn!
You really rocked it Kris! Not only do I love your message but the way you deliver it is so relatable. Like having a conversation with a friend you know and love. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Coucou Kris !
I’m french, I (try to) follow you on this blog, with my little level of English and your session was great, so great ! Do you speak french ? Bravo ! Et merci car même de si loin mon âme profite de tes conseils.
Je sais bien qu’aux US vous ne vous faites pas la bise mais nous, en France, si ! Alors : Bises affectueuses (I have to open my ears and brain to understand what you say in videos, so, it’s your turn ? Thanks a lot
Oh Kris. That was the most beautiful speech. I was laughing and crying the whole time. It’ll be on instant replay everyday. Thank you for being you!!
Thank you Kris, for your honesty, your humor, and your heart. I loved hearing about your company – Save My Ass Technology, Inc.!
Thank you for your honesty Kris! I have seen your talk a few time (was fortunate to see you live, too!) and I never think of the amount of prep that goes into it because when you are up on stage it is all coherent, flowing and fun! I love how you do not hide that fact that bringing you A game requires WORK! It is too easy to get caught up in the ‘instant’ mentality but your honesty allows a glimps to the hard work it takes to show up. Thank you!
You were relaxed like a pro. Your story is powerful even if you stuttered through it. Fortunately, you were smooth, relatable and confident. Good on you…you’re class A and very fit for that stage.
I can understand the anxiety though…Oprah is bigger than life. Her own talk is 30 mins long and is so deep, interesting and far reaching yet she is talking about what is really a life failure of hers. Talk of power.
Well done you Kris!
Wow! What an accomplishment. Love how you stayed positive and encouraged yourself even in the face of adversity. Thanks for all that you do.
Kris,
I think your so amazing and such an inspiration. Two years ago I was diganosed with breast cancer and your book saved me and gave me the strength to make the hard choices and change my life. I just wanted to tell you thank you for all that you do. I loved your speech!
Dear Kriss,
You have always been a wonderwoman to me since I got to “know” you 2 years ago. You inspire me every day – and when I saw your TED-talk I placed my hands together with a big THANK YOU! Thank you for being so honest about your feelings – even the “dark” ones. It was such a relief hearing you say that. It just made me love you even more!
OMG, I had to read this just right now when doubting abt my abilities… Thanks a milion, dear Kris! You´re like shining sun, such an inspirational beauty! Thanks!
Dear Kris, thank you so much for sharing this. I’m preparing for a talk myself and it came in perfect timing.
You totally rocked! And I loooooove your chosen dress 🙂
Keep shining 😉
Inspiring, fun and so wonderfully real and centred. You gave everyone watching permission to love and care for themselves. Well done and thank you for sharing. xx
You rocked that stage Kris! I LOVED the talk, especially how vulnerable you were willing to be about your struggles, in order to connect to the audience and really reach them (us) with your message. You’re the best, love you so! Xoxo
Just watched the SuperSoul talk. Beautifulness. So awesome. You are shining, shining, shining that light. And that dress- epitome of crazy sexy just saying. Score all the way around. Namaste!!
Dear Kris, your talk was AMAZING ! The moment I clicked Play, I was smiling from ear to ear, till the end. Not only because your talk was incredible but because it felt like a sister or a best friend was on stage and I was just so damn proud of you. You were funny, spirited, strong and truly magical. And if sometimes you wonder if it was that great (even being a crazy sexy woman can lead to some doubts 😉 ) I want to tell you it was ! You were. Authentic and chanelling the best energy ever. Love from France <3 Thank you for every thing. You changed my life.
Kirs, you’re such an inspiration!!! Love your talk, love your presence and love your courage to be open and vulnerable. I have to say, this came at the right time for me, I’m preparing for a talk about my new book and I was procrastinating on prep time and thought, I can do this, there’s no need to kill myself in preparation. But obviously, I’m setting myself up for failure! Your post helped me see the work and dedication needed to give a great talk. Thank you for sharing your process with us. That’s very helpful! 🙂
Thank you so much Kris for sharing your health journey. You are an inspiration to all who have health challenges and want to make positive changes not only to their diet, but their life. Your vibrant spirit and dedication to spreading the knowledge of healthy living and eating is so real, so loving. I know many cancer survivors, but almost none of them are cancer THRIVERS! Keep thriving, and teaching others to thrive. <3
Kris – all those hours of practice and personal prep shone through despite lack of zzzzs. You crystalised your story with humour, honesty and depth. It left me feeling ‘I’m lucky. Life hasn’t given me a life shaking wake up call, so get out there and be you again with confidence and sparkle. Cos one day you might get some life changing news; don’t find yourself napping’. So thanks Kris for inspiring and motivating me, yet again
Kris – all those hours of practice and personal prep shone through despite lack of zzzzs. You crystalised your story with humour, honesty and depth. It left me feeling ‘I’m lucky. Life hasn’t given me a life shaking wake up call, so get out there and be you again with confidence and sparkle. Cos one day you might get some life changing news; don’t find yourself napping’.
Amen to that sister! LOVED IT! Totally resonated with me. I totally understand your feeling of jealousy when people who had recovered thanked you for your work. I too feel jealousy. I am living with an autoimmune disease. I get jealous and sometime angry when I read about people who have put their autoimmune disease into remission with diet/integrative medicine/etc. Of course, I am happy for them and their stories to give me hope but I do feel envious. I have done all of those things and so much more! I have thought “how come they get to be in remission from simply eliminating gluten? I have eliminated so much more, I meditate each day, I do all the things my integrative doctor tells me to, I do everything I can to get better but I am not better at all!” So, now my biggest focus is on the mental/emotional/relationship with myself. My physical body may be out of my control currently but I know that I can control what I think and how I feel. So, I am working to love myself more, to make the most of the life that I do have (even though it is drastically limited by my health), and to care for myself in the best way that I can. I am learning to see myself as more than a physical body, the real me is a spiritual being. I agree that life is a great teacher. It often teaches us things that we do not want to learn but things that we need to learn. I know that I needed to change my relationship with myself. I used to hate myself. I used to push myself constantly. I never felt good enough. I always felt I had to please other people or to achieve to be worthy. I am now learning that I am worthy NOW, just as I am. I am working on imprinting that fact deep into my mind and my soul.
Thanks for sharing your story. Am undoing athritis – an autoimmune disease. Its about two months of a detox diet prescribed by Dr Mark Hyman. No meds at all. The athritis is not behind me but I am in no pain, feel strong and can go about my business. The diet is looots of good fats, vegetables and organic white/red meat, nuts and seeds. I like that I can eat as much as I want, eat spoonfuls of coconut oil and stay slim!
We are in this journey together… all the very best!
I’m happy to hear you are on the right track. Keep up the great work. I hope and pray that one day I will be sharing a success story of my own.
I watched your video yesterday, you are awesome Kris. Thank you so much for what you show, what you give, thank you, you are so powerful. You have been my E Friend for 2,5 years, when I was diagnosed with a lymphoma. I read you every day
I love you! Thank you for all you are and all you do. We are united in the cancer challenge. I have been diagnosed twice with it. You inspire me. You are Light and Love and Joy and Laughter. Thank you. Your friend, Joan Mary
Hysterical. Moving. Frickin AWESOME speech!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I cannot express how much I enjoyed watching your SSS talk! Thank you for posting it here for all to enjoy. You’re one of my favorite inspirational leaders because you tell it like it is and I admire you for that. Your energy is contagious and you speak to us like we’re an old friend that has stopped by to catch up.
I adore you, KC. xoxo
Kris, I have the same exact cancer you have and was misdiagnosed for 2 years. Since it is so rare I’ve found a true hero in you! To see how you’ve handled this beast, and chosen to live life to its fullest has given me the strength to kick this thing to the curb. I have 3 small children, and we are on board with Crazy Sexy! I own all your books, and I’m green juicing daily! Thank you for sharing your journey with me! Your speech was amazing!
Hey Kris, I was diagnosed with vonHipple-Lindau disease in 2004. It’s a rare genetic chronic cancer. I am 1 of 200,000 in the world, 1 of 10k in the U.S. My father passed it to me. And like yours, there is no cure. It causes cysts and tumors to grow throughout your central nervous system. Some tumors are benign and some malignant. I’ve had kidney cancer, thyroid cancer (not related to VHL) and currently have pancreatic cancer..I’ve had 11 surgeries, 3 in the brain…I wear my scars as badges of another battle I won. ..i am 35 and I have crazy sexy cancer! And I just wanted to thank you for empowering people to choose to live and love and heal… not just their body but their spirits….xoxo
I think for many of us we have followed this beautiful woman, Kris Carr, to guide us in our health and happiness and until hearing the honesty in this talk, little thought is given to just how much of a struggle and how hard it has been on your path…. this wonderful talk allowed us to see another side of you that many can probably relate to more…the struggles, the pain, the destructive or unhealthy past…for someone like me who has worked so hard to overcome my past I look at it as if it is not a part of me and I won’t even talk about it. Hearing this talk and how you have found so much self love recognizing your “crazy, sexy, dirty” days is an ah ha moment for me. Now I have more work to do. Thank you, Kris.
omg Kris – you nailed it about acceptance. Having your own back.. never abandoning yourself. I don’t know how many times have I have just wished I were more this or that and less this or that… why can’t i be her or have what she has? Truth is, I can. I am a work in progress, but am getting stronger every day and you have helped more than you can ever know with just being able to understanding exactly WHAT acceptance IS… Thank you so much!
Congratulation Kris! What an amazing talk – I can’t imagine how many people you have inspired and motivated back to healthy living. I have recently purchased your Juice book and today I caught my youngest 6yr old boy (I have four boys) putting post-it-notes on the pages of the juices/smoothies he wants to try next! I’m loving raising the next generation of plant eating gentlemen! Thank you for your help.
It is so hard in our ego-centric world to show yourself. When I just started blogging a girl wrote to me saying that she doesn’t do social media or blogs because it enhances her ego. I thought bull*t. I can do it. I can be true to myself and go public and stay myself. Nah. It is not easy. It is about balance. You say what is true but not everything because people not necessarily need everything. Comments, likes and shares do influense our ego. People want to see you getting better. They want a miracle story. And there are times that you go alone with them. You do your “I am well” manifesting. And there are times when you show them that it is all about the journey not destination. And it is all fine as long as you are true to yourself. Everyday you have to come home and check with yourself and within yourself. You go from deep down out. And this is how you kick your ego. You stick with your own truth. And the outside still matters but not as much as your inner knowing.
I see this in you, Kris. Listening to you I get a feeling that you know inside that you do your best. And this is what keeps you sane.
I really enjoyed your talk. Thank you.
You rock Chris!! You shed love & light.
Sending it right back to you,
Margie xxx
p.s. LOVE your dress, your hair, your shoes….everything. The prep really paid off 🙂
I was there at UCLA Soul Sessions live…and you did an AMAZING job! The perfect combination of truth, vulnerability, humor, polish, wit, sarcasm, softness, heart and soul. Brilliant and beautiful…inside and out. Thank you for saying “yes” and showing up.
everyday i ask…”help me know what to say, what to do, how to be, to deliver the gifts you’ve given me.” if ever there was an example of what i’d like that to look like, it’s you. thank you, Kris, for continuing to share your gifts, your lessons, your life, and encouraging us to do the same… in heels, highlights and a haute pink dress. you rocked that talk!
Thank you, Kris! You’re a lady boss role model. Thanks for sharing your journey & being an amazing teacher about healthy food and healthy living.
Thanks Amie! Love, Lady Boss 🙂
Kris, I am inspired and awed by your strength and moxie. I hope to model half of what you’ve shown in your lifetime to my little ones. Keep shining you bright, beautiful diamond. Xoxo
Oh Kris, you are so adorable – I love you to death! Or . . . oops . . . not literally to death. In any case, you’re soooo right, and you make my day, which is what you do every time I “drop by” to see what you have to share. Your life experience, the way you’ve chosen to respond to it, makes you what you are today. For me, that’s a super fun, intelligent, wonderful, crazy, sexy, sister. You are an amazing sister to all the women of the world, and an inspiration to all!!
Gail! Thank you, what you said means the world to me. 🙂 x
Every word you wrote here…stunning. You absolutely swoon me Kris Carr. Thank-you for all that you do.
Ha! Thanks Amber. I don’t think I’ve ever swooned anyone before. Glad you’re the first. 🙂
Hahaha! That is just adorable! ??x
You inspire me so much! I love your choice of words … shizzle! I’ve really enjoyed your books, I’m so happy they came my way. My best to you!
Wow! What an inspiring presentation! Thank you for sharing your story. The beauty and grace of your soul shines right through you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
I had actually just listened to/watched your Super Soul spectacular earlier today, before seeing this blog. You were sensational! Thank you for sharing your truth about your fear. And yes, you are pure magic!
That was amazing. Thank you for spreading your light, and for teaching us so many wonderful ways to take care of ourselves.
Really good work, nice job! Very inspiring and well said!
You were brilliant and so funny. I’m 46 this year and absolutely hate the fact of getting old. My diet is up the pole. Your speech made me realise that I’m not living my life to the full. Thank you. You are an inspiration. Love you. Xx
Ruth, I’m 44. We can grow old and fabulous together. 😉 x
46 is not old! I’m 48, and I love getting older, and the wisdom that comes with it! I also look better than I did 25 years ago! You can be old at 20, and young at 80, it all depends on your attitude and Spirit! And ask any 76 year old, and they will tell you old is 93… so you have a LONG way to go yet! 😉 xx
This is such a beautiful, poignant and vulnerable sharing of your experience. So spot on, because most likely everyone reading it can relate to how you felt. And of course you rocked it! You ARE pure magic my dear and that little phrase is something i’m going to take to my next mirror meeting. Thanks. Thanks for being you. Thanks for sharing you with me. With us. Pure magic.
OMG, Kris! Your talk was all you, pure 150% you…and it brought tears to my eyes many times as I listened to you. Thank you for sharing your beautiful soul with so many people. And know that you could have walked onto the stage, fallen down in front of everyone, swore up a storm, had a rip in your dress, and you STILL would have dazzled me, because that’s just who you are…on the inside! xoxo
Gina. You rock! Thank you so much. You just made me laugh my ass off. Glad NONE of those things happen (though I imagined they would and more) but good to know you still would have been dazzled. 🙂 x
Kris, Wow! Oh my goodness, Wow! Thank you, Thank you! xoxo
Beautiful Kris as always. It’s comforting to know even incredible speakers like you get nervous at times too! xx
Two words: Rock Star!
I happen to have had the great blessing to attend the recent Super Soul Session at UCLA with my sister. It was a truly amazing day, and Kris you were magic!! Big props and much love!
Thank you for being in the audience, Heather. You guys were all so supportive and open. Made it so much easier to get up there! x
Thank you so much for sharing. This landed in my inbox at the perfect time (of course!)
You are such a radiant being who inspires through sharing her absolute truth. Thank you!
Beautiful Kris, thank you! Fear has plagued me for much of my life and I really needed this message today. I want to live a Crazy Sexy Life while I’m here. I just got a puppy and it has kicked up all sorts of feeling as my heart opens to love this being-that little voice saying “uh-oh you’re falling in love, be careful”. Today I want to accept the terms of life-and love all of it while I am here. So much love to you?
Yes + yay to falling in love with your puppy! That makes me so happy. Let it all in. xo
I’ve been following you since my husband had cancer in 2008, and you have inspired too many ah-ha moments for me to count. Your Super Soul Session talk is so real and so inspiring and sums up why we all love you so much. Thank you for all your hard work to help us see that we are all badasses. You are amazing. xoxo
You are definitely a badass Anne! 🙂
You’re really brave, and I loved this talk. It brought tears to my eyes! I listen to your videos while I work, they give me a constant stream goodness (and laughs too!) to help me stay on track dealing with a chronic illness while at the same time trying my best to rock a crazy sexy life. I have learned so much from you about health, life, love and … broccoli! Thanks so much for all that you do and congrats on this amazing talk! xo
Ah Kris, you always blog what I need to hear.
Ahhhh Kris – you are incredible, awesome and super fun! I loved you from the moment I first ‘met’ you (somewhere on the internet quite a long time ago 🙂 ). And I love you even more after watching your Super Soul Talk!!! All the prep you did for this talk really paid off – you came across GREAT on stage – very natural, very friendly, very funny and so much fun to listen to… all that alongside a super powerful message! There is no better way to deliver really important stuff than in a package of friendly-non-aggressive-humour-filled energy and you nailed it!!! Well done Beautiful!! Keep shining your light. I honour you and I am honoured to ‘know’ you. Love and Hugs, Nadia xxx
I am in awe watching you and listening to you. I have tears in my eyes as you encourage us to SHOW UP. You make me want to change my diet, but I sure do resonate with the ice cream eating girl. You make me want to wake up and step up. Thank you.
Woot! Showing up rocks. While the ice cream girl may never change (and that’s OK) she just can’t rule the roost. x
I don’t need fixing, I need love…..self love. Your talk was so inspiring. I appreciate that you share the human-ness of your experience with all the doubt, fear and insecurity…and you just move forward and Do It! Thank you for sharing yourself.
Self-love is the medicine Ramona. Thanks for appreciating my human-ness. Not always easy to share but when I do it’s amazing to read so many comments from ppl who feel the same way. x
Kris, Thank you for sharing your story and for empowering the rest of us through it. Your light radiates, and lights many of us up. Thank you for sharing all you do, you have empowered me to radiate my own light and begin to share it as well.
Kris you did it!!!! And my big takeaway was no more excuses to not do or not love!! You actually took the fear out of cancer. Whatever you weaved in that speech actually pulled the curtain back and exposed cancer in a whole new way. It’s not the boogeyman under the bed or hiding in the closet! I am… if I don’t choose to live my life my way!!!! Thank you for a revolutionary speech. You fiercely drove the point home and yet I feel bathed in love and kindness. You couldn’t be more of a parent and an angel here on earth. Love to you.
Wow, Safena! I’m so honored by your takeaway. Right on! Had no idea I was doing that but glad I did LOL. x
Absolutely loved your talk. It was worth every second of prep & sleeplessness!
That was so beautiful and inspiring! I am a cancer thriver as well and have you to thank for that!
Kris,
Beautiful, wonderful, inspiring, uplifting, motivational, loving, funny, TALK!!!! Did I leave out any adjectives. You are magnificent! And you made me laugh when I was crying.
#adjectives! 🙂 Thank you Lynn. x
That was truly an amazing talk! You are an amazing inspiration to all who want to stay healthy and enjoy life no matter what the obstacle. And even if there are no obstacles at the time–thank you for sharing with us how to respect our bodies and give it what it needs to thrive. I just love your books and documentary. 🙂
Well done!
Kris, this post touched me in so many ways…and your talk??? Well, you kicked it! Thank you for sharing the real, the honest, the down and dirty. I love that nature grounds you, I can relate to that so much. You have inspired me for years and I often pass your messages on to my friends. Your message to become CEO of our own body and to accept and love ourselves is exactly what I need to hear…. like daily!! 😉 We are blessed that you chose (and continue to choose) to stand up and share your message. Thank you! xoxo
Thank you Kathy! You guys are my blessing.
So brilliant and something I’ve struggled with recently as well. Thank you for your authenticity and courage to open up. I think I’m going to add this to my morning routine after I write out my affirmations for the day.
I was there and you rocked it Kris!!! Thank you for putting your heart and soul into your work! It was awesome to hear the prep that went into your presentation. I teach through presentations and it takes a lot of work to make something seem effortless, but it’s easy to convince ourselves that others can just pull it off. I’m living bravely with the knowledge that I am enough. Thank you!
I’ve been quite emotional lately, really working on myself inside and out. I’ve never ever left a comment before. I know, crazy. I just want you to know that you’re a true inspiration. The kind that really digs deep. Thank you so much for being brave and letting your light shine. You’re a beautiful soul, Kris. Truly, Tabitha
Thanks Tabitha. And I’m so glad you left a comment, welcome!
Oh my goodness. This is so timely for me. I think it’s great when your idols tell you like it is for them, everyone is human, right?
You are so inspiring! And I am so grateful to my friend who turned me onto you.
I have a completely different career but recently took a mindfulness class that has been life changing for me. And I want to share it with others! I got permission to present an Intro class at work. Yikes! I am so excited but I do feel that fear and self doubt creeping in. I am going to follow your advice and save this blog post to read everyday.
THANK YOU!
Kris – you are a rock star and my hero. I watched your video on my front porch in the middle of nowhere and I have you a standing ovation too. 19 year cancer survivor and YOU are a big part of that. Thank you for being a wonderful teacher!
Hi Kris,
I just want to say thanks so much for your blog here. As a teacher of A Course in Miracles, I’ve been invited several times to gives talks at the annual Miracles conference in London where 200/300 people attend.
Although I’ve always accepted and given the talks over the years, and even though I’ve always prepared well, like you, I get soooooo nervous!! The last time I thought I was going to faint right before they announced me as the next speaker.
I always SWEAR I’ll never do it again, but I always do because the message of Love and forgiveness is so important to helping people live happier, healthier lives.
It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who can’t sleep and regrets accepting, but then feel so good after. You’ve really inspired me!
You are definitely not the only one! But we both have to keep showing up. 🙂
Kris
You were fantastic!! I appreciate your honesty and wonderful ability to connect with us all. You are an amazing person and a true inspiration
I love you.
I love you back. 🙂
Kris
You are beyond inspiring and so very genuine in everything you do. Thank you for being you!
Thank you Kris for this post and for everything you do, you are a true miracle and so are your tribe, your women friends who also lift my life and give me endless advice and I know them because of you (Aviva Romm, Marie Forleo, Gabbi Bernstein etc.)
I adore you 🙂 and you were magnificent at the speech and humble and powerful at the same time 🙂
Thank you for sharing how you prepared for your talk. It was amazing and inspiring and so well delivered. You nailed it! Thanks for being an inspiration and teaching us about life and how to live it from the depths of our being. Keep up the wonderful work.
Wow. Thank you thank you thank you, Kris Carr. And Oprah. This SuperSoul session is deep. Heart. Much appreciated. Headed out to plant turmeric and ginger on our small farm, a crazy willingness to continue to garden and farm organic, work, and be faithful to our tiny, small efforts. And walk in our woods breathing in beauty. Enough. Really good enough?????
You are so awesome planting ginger and turmeric. Love!!!! I use both every single day!
Kris, your story is inspiring and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with each and everyone of us. Your courage to talk to that big audience in Super Soul Sessions makes me want to do great things every single day. You always make me feel so good about myself, about my life and about the path I’m here to walk in! It means a lot! Never give up! God bless you always!
It’s such a great talk, I had to share it with all of my dearest friends! Thank you for reminding us that we’re not broken, we don’t need to be fixed. All we need and all we are is love and this is the only truth. THANK YOU SO MUCH, beautiful crazy Kris!
You rock, Sweetheart. Well done. You’ve clearly done your work. You are a dear soul. Thank you for being you. Thank you for being of service to the many others, including myself. xo
Thank you, Carmen! x
Kris, this blog post was so beautiful it moved me to tears. I can’t wait to listen to your actual talk. And of course you were magical…you did the work, you knew you were meant to be there. After that, all you had to do was show up. Reading this just reminded me even more how we all deserve beautiful, magical lives. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Kris, I just want to say that you’re an amazing, inspirational human being and that your talks, blogs, and everything else you produce are life changing.
Thank you!
Love,
Wilke
I love your openness in sharing the lessons you run toward, and those that leap out of the dark and catch you off guard. It makes us realize we are not alone – and that knowledge is so empowering. Thank you Kris – keep being that magic! x
So well said, Lucy. And thank you! I really appreciate it.
Thank you for this blog and talk Kris, it was truly inspiring. You radiate such energy and your truth shines through in every word you speak.