Hiya Gorgeous,
Learning how to let go isn’t always easy.
Many of us have trouble saying goodbye to painful memories, people we’ve lost or anger we’re holding onto. We may even find some comfort in the familiarity of rehashing those stories or feelings, even though they weigh us down.
And letting go isn’t always about the past—we often struggle to release the future, too.
Sometimes I catch myself worrying about what’s going to happen tomorrow or wondering what I can do to control the outcome of a certain situation. I think most of us can relate to that on some level, whether it happens here and there… or perhaps much more frequently.
Here’s something I want you to remember:
You are not alone and there’s nothing wrong with reflecting on the past or thinking about the future.
In fact, reminiscing and daydreaming can be a lot of fun! But when those thoughts lower your vibration and nag at you—when they block your happiness or steep you in fear—that’s when it’s time to figure out how to let go.
And keep this in mind, too: You deserve to delight in the magic and joy of the present moment, and I know you can get there. Every step you take towards shifting out of fear and re-aligning your energy with love and positivity is a step in the direction of creating the life you want to live.
OK, let’s chat about how to let go of those worries that might be standing in your way.
These affirmations are here to guide and encourage you—they’re not meant to define a strict path. This process is different for everyone, so I encourage you to focus on the affirmations that resonate with you. Anything that makes you feel better (even just a tiny bit!) is a sign that you’re headed in the right direction.
How to Let Go & Live
Keep Breathing
It all starts with one breath.
You might even try closing your eyes and tuning into the rise and fall of your chest. Imagine that with every exhale, you’re releasing negativity and the toxic thoughts that weigh you down. And with every inhale, you’re pulling bright, beautiful positivity in to fill you up.
Anytime you feel anxious, worried or sad, remember to come back to your breath.
Be Present
Many of us are so busy ruminating over the past or worrying about the future that we don’t have the space to enjoy the beauty right in front of us.
Take some time to recognize your surroundings. Honor where you are right now and allow yourself to just be. And while you’re at it, why not treat yourself to a gorgeous sunset? How cool is it that mother nature put on an art show just for you?
Remember that everything else can wait, even if only for a few quiet minutes.
Believe
Keep checking in with your energy. What are you putting out there? High vibe thoughts or low vibe complaints?
As I mention in this card, to successfully manifest our dreams, our feelings (aka thoughts) need to be in alignment with our plans. So, put your intentions out there, feel the joy you’d feel to experience those goals, then bask in that joy while also doing the work. Then trust that the universe is working on your behalf at the same time. As Rumi says, “What you seek is seeking you.” Love that!
A New Day
Know this: Everything will be ok.
Whatever happened yesterday is in the past. What happens today will be gone tomorrow.
That doesn’t mean you’re not justified in being sad, scared or angry—you have every right to those feelings. But today is a new day and you have yet another chance to feel good and re-align with joy, health, prosperity and love.
Dream Big
Leave room for possibilities you never even dreamed of!
The more you stay connected to your spiritual practice, to taking care of yourself and to choosing positive thoughts and actions over fear-based thoughts and actions, the more abundance you’ll experience in your life.
Your future is so bright… I can feel it in my bones.
Your turn: Do you feel better after reading these messages? If so, let me know! And remember, that good feeling is always available to you.
Peace & Letting Go,
P.S. These cards are from my Crazy Sexy Love Notes deck. They’re sold out for now but we’re thinking about printing another batch. Email my team here if you’d like to join the waitlist. And in the meantime, check out my new book, I’m Not a Mourning Person. It’s full of my best advice to help you navigate tough seasons and come back to authentic joy that lasts.
Thank you Kris! I needed this today. Just breathe and let go. These reminders are gold. xxxx
Thank you so much for writing this. I have so much pain and grief due to missing my ex boyfriend the last four years. It feels so embarrassing not being able to let go. But just the sentence “You are not alone” makes me feel better. Thank you for writing about this. It gives me hope.
Thanks Kris!! I really needed this today. 2018 was a tough year, so I am committed in 2019 to taking care of ME and finding myself spiritually. It’s difficult for me and sometimes I don’t know where to start, but I am grateful for your gentle guideness!!
Just found out that I am losing a fairy friend & feeling so sad. Thanks so very much for your wonderful magical self & wisdom & wishes in this challenging time✨?✨
I have been working on creating big change in my life. I’ve allowed my anxiety to get the best of me and I’ve created a lot of self doubt and fear. So much so, that I’ve considered giving up and walking away. I do know walking away and giving up will be a big regret of mine. I have been in a funk for some time and reading this blog has definitely reminded me and reassured me that I’m not alone, I need to take a deep breath and have faith in the process. I need to remain focused on my present moment and focus my energy on my goals. I needed this. Thank you.
Tammy, I feel the exact same way!! Such a funk I have been in, and my anxiety has been ridiculous lately! I wish you the best and know that you are not alone! Breathe deep! ?
Hi Kris! I never, ever realized that I needed to let go of the future. I have been worried about everything. You’re right, somehow my tomorrows seem more doable and positive if I let go, rather than try to analyze every possible outcome to make myself feel better about anything that might happen. Bravo for your post. Now I can go on that holiday feeling confident and bright.
Thanks.
Hi Kris, I was given the deck of your crazy, sexy love notes by a dear friend of mine 2 years ago. Sadly, she lost her battle with cancer about 6 months after she gave me this gift. I read one card every day and it not only lifts my spirits but also reminds me of my friend. A gift that touches my heart daily. Thank you.
I read your post. It is very informative and helpful to me. I admire the message valuable information you provided in your article. Thank you for posting, again! We all have the right to happiness,
I love this. Every Sunday I pick one of these cards and place it on my mirror in my bathroom for the week. Today I’m going to put all these on my mirror. These are such a great reminder. Thank you:)
I saved the last o e to be a screensaver on my iPad!
Thank you for brightening my day, Kris. And my life! I return to my Love Notes often and whenever I need to feel more guided. I’ve also given a set to many dear friends and family. Guess what’s on my list for presents this year? More inspiring Love Notes! You’re awesome!
Completely perfect timing. Thank you.
Dearest Kris!
Talk about reading just the right at just the right time:-)!
Sending you a BIG thank you for all your wonderful inspiration from me in Sweden!
//Jejja
Sending a big hug right back to Sweden! xo
Loved these beautiful uplifting affirmations!! Thank you Kris for always making me smile and making me feel better:)I will definitely try to practice them more…
You make me smile, Tina! Every little bit of practice counts—I hope you’ll keep that in mind. xo!
Three words: Won der fu l!!! Keep those affirmations coming. They ever needed especially in times like these. Thank you so very much. Namaste’.
Thank you, Issa! I’m happy to hear you enjoyed them :-).
These are AMAZING! Pretty much every one resonated with me or felt relevant to what is going on in my life at the moment. Thank you!
Yay! So glad to hear that, Karen. Hugs!
Thankyou
<3 thank YOU, Charlene. xo
I will never figure out how you and the Universe manage to conspire on my behalf at the perfect moment! You play right into the current situation like you’re sitting in my living room. AND the cards! Dangit ! They were moved from their “place” when house cleaning for guests and well, you know how that is.
Thank you for the gentle reminders that it’s all up to me to do what needs to be done, be it breathing, believing, and KNOWING that something bigger IS on the way. And the reminder to go get the dang cards out!
Kris!!!!! Love you and all that you bring to this planet and my universe!
I’m so happy this came at the perfect time for you, Dawn. Love you right back! xo
I so needed these today! I read one every hour throughout the morning, and each was like a balm to the soul. Thank you, Kris!
That’s such a great idea, Lisa! I’m definitely going to try that out next time I need a boost. xo!
Thank you for your continued emails. Right now I’m stuck, the New Day affirmation reminded me that change is ok.
Sending lots of love as you work through that change, Laura. xo!
Kris
Any chance we can sell your notes at our Integrative Pharmacy in Bedminster New Jersey
Hey Allyson! You can email my team at info @ kriscarr.com to get the details on this. Thanks for your interest!
Thanks Kris for these affirmations. They help a lot for a current situation. Working on letting go of relationships. It’s tough when you feel certain relationships should be a certain way but still sometimes you have to just let go and realize they are people too on their own path. Thank you for all the love and light that you share. It is so needed and such a blessing.
Amen, Jules! I couldn’t have said it better. It’s hard to let people do their own thing (their own way), but it’s the healthiest thing we can do for our relationships. xo!
Thank you so much Kris. It´s amazing how everything is connected. I really needed to remember how important it is to let go. Greetings from Mexico
It really is, isn’t it? Glad you’re reminding yourself to pause and notice that, Carla. xo!
Your stuff always makes me feel better
I’m so glad to hear that, Michelle. Hugs! 🙂
Right back at you. Your timing is always impeccable and the way you phrase things is so understanding and compassionate. Bless you x
to leap into faith and be led by the Creator of the universe, God; will we find the peace we have been searching for all our lives. I hope and pray you are of similar belief and will continue to help “everyone” find this most important truth beyond and through the universal chaos that tears so many of us apart. — No disrespect intended just a redirect to consider. Peace, Love, & GOD BLESS ? I was thinking the same thing Why is it hard for folks to call all this grace,light and Peace from God? I put the part of Glenns post in the beginning and affirm what he said.
My Deepest Gratitude, Kris!
BEAUTIFUL As ALWAYS!!!
‘Letting Go’… The key phrase for the current times. Love Your Words… Right on Point! ~ “Leave room for possibilities you never even dreamed of! The more you stay connected to your spiritual practice, to taking care of yourself and to choosing positive thoughts and actions over fear-based thoughts and actions, the more abundance you’ll experience in your life. Your future is so bright… I can feel it in my bones”. Absolute Truth, Kris!!!
Possibilities to ALL!!! ?
Happy to hear this resonated with you, Renae. MWAH!
Thanks for choosing to be such a beautiful person!! I understand in trying to help “everyone” you may need to feel it necessary be generic in terms of a statement like this “Then trust that the “universe” is working on your behalf at the same time”. This seems quite ridiculous as the universe is nothing more than matter but when we replace just one word it makes complete sense! 😉 Only when we face the true path to transcendence which entails replacing the doubt and haphazardness of the universe and choose to leap into faith and be led by the Creator of the universe, God; will we find the peace we have been searching for all our lives. I hope and pray you are of similar belief and will continue to help “everyone” find this most important truth beyond and through the universal chaos that tears so many of us apart. — No disrespect intended just a redirect to consider. Peace, Love, & GOD BLESS 🙂
The ‘Universe’ is just a WORD used to cover ‘Everyone’s Beliefs Systems’ WHATEVER that May BE for EACH Individual! The World is Wide, ALL Encompassing… ALL Inclusive! We Are ALL Allowed to Believe… Whatever That ‘Higher Power’ Represents to Each of US! Expansiveness ‘ALLOWS’ ALL…The ‘Universe’…Contraction shows just the ‘Little Egoic Me, and My Beliefs’.
I feel in resolution rather than all ENCOMPASSING dilution. Whatever makes you feel good inclusion and expansiveness gobbly gook does not lead by example and can not help those searching for true peace. The Bible says peace now and everlasting can only be found in God and His expansive and all encompassing Love & Grace. Thanks Renae for your short retort but I’ll continue to take comfort and to share, when possible, the Bible and its promises; rather than WHATEVER!
PEACE, LOVE, AND PRAYERS
Kris! I look at your 11 affirmations to elevate your energy almost daily girl & I LOVE them. It does truly help. Thank you for creating & releasing this beautiful portion of letting go. I know it will help so many! I am going through an extremely rough time with my health & some important relationships that include my Mother, whom I have always been close to, due to just simply not wanting to understand what I myself is going through. I feel as if I am bother perhaps to those relationships I am struggling with right now. Step by step, I have a plan, you are a part of that plan beautiful lady & if our relationship is meant to blossom again then I believe it will. One of my favorite Love Notes is “Something bigger is on the way” Thank you for being you! Much Love & Good Vibes, Ash
I’m so happy that those affirmations bring you joy, Ashley—that’s exactly what I hoped they’d do! Sorry to hear you’re going through a tough time, but it sounds like you’ve got a good mindset about it, and that’s a huge step. Sending you lots of love. xo
Thank you, that is encouraging to hear especially from you “- ) One Step at a Time! Deep Breaths & Good Vibes. xo.
All of these affirmations, bright hopeful images, and gentle reminders come at a good time as we approach the powerful eclipse on Friday. Thank you for the inspiration to get grounded in my spiritual, health, and creative practices to navigate whatever comes my way.
Thank YOU, Kathryn! So glad these brought you some inspiration today. xo
Thank you so much for always being the light.
You’re the light, Laura! I hope you’ll never forget that 🙂
Talk about believing in synchrony!!! This is EXACTLY what I needed to read today! I am living with a spouse with PTSD and has such a difficult time leaving the past in the past. He is currently working on something that in my mind will do nothing but make upset and stress with not much payoff to our current life. However, for my peace of mind and joy I have to remember to detach with love, respect his decision AND still follow my path, which is in line with exactly what you discussed in this post. “Leaving possibilities never dreamed of”… I have lived long enough to see how things sometimes work out better than we could have possibly imagined! Nothing is ever perfect – but that is life. <3
Hi Jodi! I’m so glad this came at the right time for you. It sounds like you’re dealing with a tough situation, but you’re doing the right things to take care of your precious self. Sending you big hugs!
Hi Kris, thanks so much for these messages. I felt so uplifted and lighter after reading them, in a way that nothing else was helping with. Very grateful. Lots of love to you.
You just made me smile, Genevieve—thank you for sharing that. Lots of love right back atcha!
Thanks so much Kris! I have been ruminating on a situation and feeling angry about it. But after reading your messages, i can feel a shift, i got a nice warm glow in my belly at the end xx
That’s so wonderful to hear, Josh. Every little shift is a huge step, so give yourself a big hug for me!